BLOG 4B.
Studying with a set of friends is just not constructive (Most of the times), but It's fun too. I have my share of friends, I prefer studying with them or doing my homework when I am with them, I just feel that I am more productive when I am with them. Most of the times I am able to finish all my homework on time but when I do not, they help me not stress out, they motivate me in a way that I start believing in my own abilities. The idea of group study is not just fun but it helps you focus more too, and just in case if you get stuck somewhere, you always have your personal teachers with you.
Tuesday, February 28, 2017
BLOG 4A.
In this generation of exploring new places, different kind of food, street food, the woods, exciting parties, new movies, people often tend to forget exploring themselves. My brother once told me, obviously must've heard it himself but he wanted me to know, that before spending time with anyone at any place, you get to spend the most time with your own self, so make yourself interesting. I truly believe in that fact. See what you like, what you actually think, explore your perspective, notice of what really is the difference between your opinion and other's or do you just agree to fit in. Ask yourself if you really want to be right all the time. These little questions really make a difference, if you want to be like someone or if you want to be you. There can not be anything in this world that can give you more happiness than finding yourself. This can actually be done in a few steps for example, Make sense of your past, ask yourself of why you did that and who did you do that for. If we have has painful early experiences, we can see through them as to how we defend ourselves and how we look at ourselves. For example, having harsh parents can change our outlook of the surrounding, the way we behave and many more things. So get to know more about why is your behavior actually like that, resolve your issues and get comfortable with your past and finally let it go. Past is called past for a reason. Then see what you are really looking for in your life. Seek meaning, what you really want from your life. Ask yourself what set of values do you really possess, what really matters to you, is it your loved ones or is it wealth or is it your health. After that, see what are you really good at. I believe every person has a super power. Look out for your super power, notice of what you are really good at, Is it writing, or is it reading people, or is it science. It can be anything. One more important and distinct feature about knowing yourself is friendship. Knowing the true value of friendship and relationships, how much do you respect it and what you really seek out of it. What really is your definition of friendship. http://www.psychalive.org/finding-yourself/
In this generation of exploring new places, different kind of food, street food, the woods, exciting parties, new movies, people often tend to forget exploring themselves. My brother once told me, obviously must've heard it himself but he wanted me to know, that before spending time with anyone at any place, you get to spend the most time with your own self, so make yourself interesting. I truly believe in that fact. See what you like, what you actually think, explore your perspective, notice of what really is the difference between your opinion and other's or do you just agree to fit in. Ask yourself if you really want to be right all the time. These little questions really make a difference, if you want to be like someone or if you want to be you. There can not be anything in this world that can give you more happiness than finding yourself. This can actually be done in a few steps for example, Make sense of your past, ask yourself of why you did that and who did you do that for. If we have has painful early experiences, we can see through them as to how we defend ourselves and how we look at ourselves. For example, having harsh parents can change our outlook of the surrounding, the way we behave and many more things. So get to know more about why is your behavior actually like that, resolve your issues and get comfortable with your past and finally let it go. Past is called past for a reason. Then see what you are really looking for in your life. Seek meaning, what you really want from your life. Ask yourself what set of values do you really possess, what really matters to you, is it your loved ones or is it wealth or is it your health. After that, see what are you really good at. I believe every person has a super power. Look out for your super power, notice of what you are really good at, Is it writing, or is it reading people, or is it science. It can be anything. One more important and distinct feature about knowing yourself is friendship. Knowing the true value of friendship and relationships, how much do you respect it and what you really seek out of it. What really is your definition of friendship. http://www.psychalive.org/finding-yourself/
Tuesday, February 21, 2017
BLOG 3B.
There's this one cool show that I started watching the last week with my best-friend "Once upon a time". It is one awesome show. It is about all the fairy tales that we read when we were kids, but it includes evil winning at the end, and there's only one person who can change it, change the ending of the stories where good wins over bad. There's just one character, named Emma who is apparently Snow White's daughter who has magic in the real world and can change everything and who is fighting against the evil queen. This show runs simultaneously between the real world and the fairytale world. It lets you imagine different things. I am pretty much addicted to the show.
There's this one cool show that I started watching the last week with my best-friend "Once upon a time". It is one awesome show. It is about all the fairy tales that we read when we were kids, but it includes evil winning at the end, and there's only one person who can change it, change the ending of the stories where good wins over bad. There's just one character, named Emma who is apparently Snow White's daughter who has magic in the real world and can change everything and who is fighting against the evil queen. This show runs simultaneously between the real world and the fairytale world. It lets you imagine different things. I am pretty much addicted to the show.
BLOG 3A.
Throwing food, pulling someone's hair, being rude, doesn't it say anything about anyone? Some kids do such things in order to get in the limelight or to get someone's attention. The general thinking is that Attention-seeking kids are always looking for opportunities to jump in and enjoy the limelight but sometimes it can mean different too. What if they are missing something from their lives? And, sometimes, when it's over done, can cause many problems in later life. Personally, when I was a kid, Sometimes, I did everything to get my elder sister's attention as I love her a lot and she was my role model back then and honestly, I used to consider her to be one person who was too cool for me. I wanted to be like her, so each time she wasn't paying much attention like talking on phone or watching television when I needed her, I used to do things through which I could easily get her attention. It was so much fun as I felt extremely pampered. But, She did not let this become a habit which until now I totally appreciate. On the contrary my best-friend when he was 5, used to do it continuously, everyday, which then, later in life led him to be threatened of abandonment as when he was a kid, his parents did everything as he said and got him everything he asked for.
Throwing food, pulling someone's hair, being rude, doesn't it say anything about anyone? Some kids do such things in order to get in the limelight or to get someone's attention. The general thinking is that Attention-seeking kids are always looking for opportunities to jump in and enjoy the limelight but sometimes it can mean different too. What if they are missing something from their lives? And, sometimes, when it's over done, can cause many problems in later life. Personally, when I was a kid, Sometimes, I did everything to get my elder sister's attention as I love her a lot and she was my role model back then and honestly, I used to consider her to be one person who was too cool for me. I wanted to be like her, so each time she wasn't paying much attention like talking on phone or watching television when I needed her, I used to do things through which I could easily get her attention. It was so much fun as I felt extremely pampered. But, She did not let this become a habit which until now I totally appreciate. On the contrary my best-friend when he was 5, used to do it continuously, everyday, which then, later in life led him to be threatened of abandonment as when he was a kid, his parents did everything as he said and got him everything he asked for.
Few kids like to seek attention of their family or friends as they feel their parents do not give them enough time. For example, if parents are overwhelmed with their work load, kids do weird things to get their parents attention as they deeply miss parental contact.
These little things could actually rupture a kid's life and childhood. There are many ways through which it could get better, like parents can notice the child's good behavior and encourage them and take time out to be with them. Second method could be that they could sometimes ignore the child's bad behavior(sometimes) and be nice to them and pay close attention to what they are saying. And stay consistent, as children understand better if something is done in a consistent and standard manner. Child care is a big issue and attention-seeking is one method opted by the child to let you know that they want love. See it, notice!
https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-to-do-about-attention-seeking-kids/
Tuesday, February 14, 2017
BLOG 2B.
My conference time with my English professor was unexpected and really unusual. It was that way because I thought what I wrote for my first draft did make sense, since the topic was really cool and interesting too. It was "Love and Intimacy", well who doesn't want to read that but when I went to her to listen to her feedback, it did not go the way I thought it would, she told me it was not something that she was looking for her, at first I did not understand but later when she explained it to me clearly, I started seeing her point, I realized that she is right, I wrote on a very broad topic, anything could come under it. There are so many things one could think if they hear the topic "love and intimacy". She made me realize that it wasn't as cool as I thought it was. So then I started writing on Criminal Witnessing, at the end of my 2nd draft I realized that this is a more narrowed and specific topic and I can learn more from it.
My conference time with my English professor was unexpected and really unusual. It was that way because I thought what I wrote for my first draft did make sense, since the topic was really cool and interesting too. It was "Love and Intimacy", well who doesn't want to read that but when I went to her to listen to her feedback, it did not go the way I thought it would, she told me it was not something that she was looking for her, at first I did not understand but later when she explained it to me clearly, I started seeing her point, I realized that she is right, I wrote on a very broad topic, anything could come under it. There are so many things one could think if they hear the topic "love and intimacy". She made me realize that it wasn't as cool as I thought it was. So then I started writing on Criminal Witnessing, at the end of my 2nd draft I realized that this is a more narrowed and specific topic and I can learn more from it.
BLOG 2A.
How do we decide if we are rich, smart or short? One way is through social comparison. We tend to define ourselves and compare ourselves with others to feel good about our own selves, and some other times, feel bad too. So if one person wants to feel good about themselves they'll probably compare themselves with people who are comparatively beneath them, and people who want to feel bad, they compare with people who are above them in certain areas, it can be socially, mentally, or maybe in wealth. In my opinion comparison in any manner with anyone is not a good idea. It can easily throw you too a darker side, which is pretty hard to come out from. A few people go into depression because of the same reason. There has been various studies, for instance there has been a study of people who have been facing marital dissatisfaction, the relationship between their feeling and social comparison, negative or positive, regardless has had a negative impact. Comparison in general is not fruitful. Even when it comes to parents, parents tend to compare their kids with other children, even if they intend to just create that sense of competition among the kids and there's no other negative motive behind it. Without realizing the fact that it might hurt the child or they sometimes demean the kid unknowingly can leave a great impact on the kid, which certainly is not that positive. Mostly, Kids end up feeling bad about themselves resulting in degradation of scores or not talking a lot like before. It can be anything. Social Comparison is not entirely a bad idea as there are perks too. Some people do take it positively and strive to grow for example, the same parent, treating the other kid in the same manner might boost their confidence and do end up creating that sense of competition which is good for the kid, which does motivate the kid to do well in all aspects. It all comes down to how you perceive it.
Sources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2283590
http://www.beingtheparent.com/stop-comparing-your-child/
How do we decide if we are rich, smart or short? One way is through social comparison. We tend to define ourselves and compare ourselves with others to feel good about our own selves, and some other times, feel bad too. So if one person wants to feel good about themselves they'll probably compare themselves with people who are comparatively beneath them, and people who want to feel bad, they compare with people who are above them in certain areas, it can be socially, mentally, or maybe in wealth. In my opinion comparison in any manner with anyone is not a good idea. It can easily throw you too a darker side, which is pretty hard to come out from. A few people go into depression because of the same reason. There has been various studies, for instance there has been a study of people who have been facing marital dissatisfaction, the relationship between their feeling and social comparison, negative or positive, regardless has had a negative impact. Comparison in general is not fruitful. Even when it comes to parents, parents tend to compare their kids with other children, even if they intend to just create that sense of competition among the kids and there's no other negative motive behind it. Without realizing the fact that it might hurt the child or they sometimes demean the kid unknowingly can leave a great impact on the kid, which certainly is not that positive. Mostly, Kids end up feeling bad about themselves resulting in degradation of scores or not talking a lot like before. It can be anything. Social Comparison is not entirely a bad idea as there are perks too. Some people do take it positively and strive to grow for example, the same parent, treating the other kid in the same manner might boost their confidence and do end up creating that sense of competition which is good for the kid, which does motivate the kid to do well in all aspects. It all comes down to how you perceive it.
Sources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2283590
http://www.beingtheparent.com/stop-comparing-your-child/
Tuesday, February 7, 2017
BLOG 1B.
Walking towards my Professor's office for my first conference, I didn't know what to really talk about, had a few topics in mind but nothing was clear. I had absolutely no idea what I was going to talk about, we apparently had to decide a topic to write on for the entire semester. Come on, that is a big deal. Did not want to decide, since the semester has just started. I walk in to my professor's office, I see this pleasant lady with her laptop with a wide smile on her face. I honestly felt really comfortable the moment I entered. As I was still contemplating about which topic to choose, she gave me a really good advice also, suggested me a bunch of new topics and also helped me focus on one subtopic. When I walked out of her office, I was more clear and ended up writing my first draft on a really cool and interesting topic which I am pretty sure is relatable to all!
Walking towards my Professor's office for my first conference, I didn't know what to really talk about, had a few topics in mind but nothing was clear. I had absolutely no idea what I was going to talk about, we apparently had to decide a topic to write on for the entire semester. Come on, that is a big deal. Did not want to decide, since the semester has just started. I walk in to my professor's office, I see this pleasant lady with her laptop with a wide smile on her face. I honestly felt really comfortable the moment I entered. As I was still contemplating about which topic to choose, she gave me a really good advice also, suggested me a bunch of new topics and also helped me focus on one subtopic. When I walked out of her office, I was more clear and ended up writing my first draft on a really cool and interesting topic which I am pretty sure is relatable to all!
BLOG 1A.
The ability of us humans to disperse knowledge in efficient ways has lead to the rapid advancements of our civilizations. I truly am thankful for the various thinkers spreading their thoughts in comprehensible forms. The past days brought to me, an opportunity to finally read "1984" , The Orwellian classic which might not be depicting the reality as it is now, paints the picture of a dystopian alternate future provided that man along his peers fails to put necessary checks on the men who govern them. Given the current scenario of the world we live in, we are witnessing a tumultuous time where there is great civil unrest within societies, Be it as Eastern as India or as Western as the United States, people are getting aware of the politics of life, but also at the same time, the various governments of the world continue to drift towards the dystopia painted by George Orwell in '1984' with greater civil surveillance and further ignorance on the part of the people regarding the surveillance forced on them. There continue to be proxy wars in far lands under the disguise of "fighting for freedom" , everyday new lies of the governments are unearthed, Men continue to suffer due to lack or wastage of resources ; it is such times which make me feel more drawn to the ideas in 1984 where Orwell points out the flaws in the system through a satirical scenario where the true intentions of the ruling men are revealed. The reality of the novel does not necessarily make me happy, but knowing that I am at least able to think or perceive things with a new perspective gives me satisfaction. I do agree with many ideas, such as the need of war to further reinforce the public sentiment towards the ruling party , a few powerful men consuming the majority of the resources for themselves. While these might not be a part of the global reality YET , these are part of an unfortunate reality in many lands. After being exposed to such ideas, I strongly suggest that everyone must educate themselves and must be aware as to what their elected representatives are doing, as we might not take interest in Politics, politics will surely take interest in us, and if not for us, we owe it to the future generations that we leave a healthy society for them to inherit and revel in.
The ability of us humans to disperse knowledge in efficient ways has lead to the rapid advancements of our civilizations. I truly am thankful for the various thinkers spreading their thoughts in comprehensible forms. The past days brought to me, an opportunity to finally read "1984" , The Orwellian classic which might not be depicting the reality as it is now, paints the picture of a dystopian alternate future provided that man along his peers fails to put necessary checks on the men who govern them. Given the current scenario of the world we live in, we are witnessing a tumultuous time where there is great civil unrest within societies, Be it as Eastern as India or as Western as the United States, people are getting aware of the politics of life, but also at the same time, the various governments of the world continue to drift towards the dystopia painted by George Orwell in '1984' with greater civil surveillance and further ignorance on the part of the people regarding the surveillance forced on them. There continue to be proxy wars in far lands under the disguise of "fighting for freedom" , everyday new lies of the governments are unearthed, Men continue to suffer due to lack or wastage of resources ; it is such times which make me feel more drawn to the ideas in 1984 where Orwell points out the flaws in the system through a satirical scenario where the true intentions of the ruling men are revealed. The reality of the novel does not necessarily make me happy, but knowing that I am at least able to think or perceive things with a new perspective gives me satisfaction. I do agree with many ideas, such as the need of war to further reinforce the public sentiment towards the ruling party , a few powerful men consuming the majority of the resources for themselves. While these might not be a part of the global reality YET , these are part of an unfortunate reality in many lands. After being exposed to such ideas, I strongly suggest that everyone must educate themselves and must be aware as to what their elected representatives are doing, as we might not take interest in Politics, politics will surely take interest in us, and if not for us, we owe it to the future generations that we leave a healthy society for them to inherit and revel in.
Thursday, February 2, 2017
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